Is There Enough Intimacy in Your Life?

Is There Enough Intimacy in Your Life | Into the Tangled Garden

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Plato said, “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” Think about that.

The intimacy we so desire can be blocked by our own refusal to share or find humor in our lives. We miss the opportunity to play, learn, share and laugh together. In general, most conversations tend to be generic and rather superficial. We walk away having learned nothing more that what we already know without even beginning to explore another’s world.

Play refreshes and adds longevity to adult life and adult relationships.

Playful communication creates easy interactions that connect and deepen a friendship. Often we share the “approved” version of ourselves. Our most interesting parts remain concealed. Do you reveal your true self in conversations, or is it guarded? True – not everyone is capable of accepting us as is. We can be rejected because of something innocent, but unconventional. Still it feels better when you come as you are, and engaging this approach often allows others to do the same.

But wait there is more. What would happen if you played with life instead of spar with it?

“Life is too important to take seriously.”

Why do we think of playing as wasting time? Why can’t we consider playfulness a healthy ingredient in the work environment?

Playwright Nagle Jackson wrote, “The truly great advances of this generation will be made by those who can make outrageous connections, and only a mind that knows how to play can do that.”

Take time for play! | Into the Tangled Garden CharlestonWhat can we learn from kids?

They start play without being conscious of the feelings or status of the other. In that framework friendship, empathy, affection and group loyalty develop.

This can be the backbone of a thriving community.