On Getting Real…

unnamedJames Baldwin wrote, “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”

Author Zora Neale Hurston adds, “Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.” The truth is we hide from our shadow parts, and even more from our brilliant, godlike qualities. 

So what do you hide from?

You wear a mask that reflects who you unconsciously believe you are. You carry on bravely, answering the question “how are you” with “I’m good” or “I’m fine”.  Sure you are, but what parts of the self are you hiding from?

I’m re-reading “Higher Creativity – Liberating the Unconscious for Breakthrough Insights” by Harman and Rheingold.  The authors write:

“Any serious attempt at self revelation will arouse strong and subtle resistance.” 

This quote reminds me of the years I studied with Caroline Myss more than a decade ago.

At the CMED Institute, I witnessed a collective resistance to self-realization and inner-reflection by my classmates, who had paid a lot of money to attend her program and explore their inner lives. They initially blamed their discomfort with the process of self examination on Caroline. They defended their perceptions, their outdated belief systems, the same negative behavior patterns, and the stories of victimization dominating their internal narrative. 

Caroline unmasked them. She exposed them to their truth. As quickly as their resistance appeared, a new rush of energy and enthusiasm took over when they integrated her insights. She would say, “You can get over this in 10 minutes or 10 years.” 

It is your choice. 

More from Harman and Rheingold: 

“Among the deep unconscious beliefs everybody holds are beliefs about human potentialities and limitations – one’s own, and other people’s. These limits tend to be confirmed by experience not because they are true, but because they are believed. History has shown, time and time again, that popular opinion about human limits can change, and that human limits themselves can change drastically.” 

What limits are you putting on your life? What deeply engrained beliefs do you have about what you can and cannot do?

To experience breakthroughs in your life, you have to know you can reprogram your belief systems. Being open to the possibility of re-creating yourself over and over again is the first step to making conscious changes and choices that will grant you the power to do what you never thought possible. 


It is only natural to resist abandoning your old way of seeing the world and acting.

If you let go of your beliefs and your former sense of self, you have to approach life as a blank slate. You must admit any knowledge you have is momentary. 

All the thoughts and concepts that have offered you a feeling of being safe, secure, like you know how to navigate this world will have to die for you to experience the evolution of Self.

Everything on this planet wants to stay alive – your fear, your sadness, your ego. When you commit to evolving your ego by partnering it with your soul, you don’t just exist. You flourish. You become real. 

You’ve been on the edge of a breakthrough long enough.